What is a Personal? The following is a typical situation which I have choose to address and share with each of you ... For some this could answer some questions you might have. Hi, got your message on aff, hope to pursue this. Talk to you soon. Keith Hi there ... Well first let me be up front and honest here I am a Lifestyle and Professional Dominatrix. I am seeking a personal ... now you do not have to have experience but willingness and the right attitude will be enough to impress me ... I take my hobby seriously and enjoy it a great deal. I am including a link to my site for you to check out ... if you go to DomRose Data and look at session types near the bottom is what I seek laid out clearly ... you can also see by the rest of the site I am very much for real. Now I will let you know that site can load slowly sometimes as it is graphic intense ... but well worth the wait. Hopefully your not on Dial up ... I am so I know lol. I will look forward to hearing from you if you wish to proceed further with this ... I got your email but I have been loading up sites for two days here and tend to load and leave the computer while it does its thing.  Enjoy the site and I will look forward to speaking to you more if you are serious. DominatrixRose

Although I've lived in Phoenix and Denver the past few years, I guess the naive Kansas farm boy in me was exposed on this one. I've met quite a few women on Aff and other sites and had more sex than one can imagine, so I guess I was caught off guard by someone promoting a business. So I will bow out gracefully and let you carry on with your profession while I seek women for more of a one on one sexual experience in old fashioned terms.....free:) Good luck with the business. Keith Apparently you did not read very well ... I am seeking a personal ... I was up front about it all as that is the right thing to do ... now I directed you to a section of my site for Lifestyle players ... apparently you do not want to serve a Mistress you want to have your cock taken care of ... for free no less .... well good for you and good luck ... now as I said I am seeking a personal player for my personal enjoyment .. I will offer you this advice ... before you ask something (which it is clear you have no real interest in and I was honest about that never did I say I was going to charge a dime) ... Try being honest about things and learn what you are getting in to FIRST before you waste not just your time but others. Nothing is free and since you fail to read anything properly I suggest stepping back from this arena ... you could get hurt lol ... enjoy life and good luck. DominatrixRose

This is my second reply to your email. Going back again and reading your original email, I honestly would not know what a personal is, and going to your website again, it doesn't really explain what a personal is, and can be confusing with the talk of prices all around it. Ok, I plead ignorance. On my site there is a book I suggest newbies read called "Screw the Roses, Send me the thorns" You will find it one the Session Information page in DomRose Data. This might be the best place to go and learn more in a effective way which clearly explains what this is and what this is not. So lets break this down for the record ... Now a professional is just what is means .... yes it is done for monetary reasons ... My reasons were the toys are very expensive in this hobby and needed help to get them for everyone's enjoyment. Now in the real world a man may bring flowers, candy and a trinket for a lady he wishes to be well more intimate with. This is not the real world however, the old school or old guard thinking is when a slave came to serve a Mistress, it was always with a gift for her Dungeon and in some cases for the Mistress herself. Some fine and traditional manners seem to have fallen to the way side in our rushed and fast paced life. And what a shame that is. It was my subs who got me to think about going professional, as I would meet them in Hotels-Motels all of which were very nice .... they felt a place they helped support would allow the benefits of being able to have equipment and less wear and tear of transporting from location to location. And after discussing it with friends and another ProDom, going professional made sense on so many levels. It is expected that a sub/slave serves a Mistress ... be it manual labor such as cleaning the Dungeon, building equipment etc. Some men do not have the time to do this be it for work, locations and or being in a relationship. A sub or slave is just that a slave ... and to reward slaves for the service we are giving play time to them. A Mistress is worshipped of course like a Goddess. And you don't think of a Goddess vacuuming the floor now do you? Service of some kind to your Mistress is expected in the Lifestyle. There are responsibility each side has to make this type of relationship work. Here are some perks for seeing a Professional and not just a Lifestyle Mistress for the sub ... Pro Doms tend to have more and better equipment. Her time is more or less open to a subs availability. A ProDom is always safer then a Lifestyle as we are more public. You do not need to worry about getting hurt above and beyond what was agreed to. The place is more safe considering it is a biz that it is not a Mickey mouse equipment nightmare. There are more reasons but that should tell you about that part of it. I was a college professor, and consider myself to be fairly smart, but I have to admit, if you hadn't written, I would still be confused. Is it me??? Yes it is ... and sadly a lot of people are also confused too. They think it is either like Hollywood portrays it ... painful and sometimes life ending or like the porn movies a lot of hot taboo sex ... I will tell you neither are really true it is better then that. But, I have filled out your form in case you decide to give me a second chance. Once again, I am not looking for free sex, Lets be honest here ... yes you are looking for free sex ... You have joined Adult Friend Finders or any of them like Alt.com to seek new experiences. I am on those systems because trying to get a personal from a sub who was a paying client I feel is in bad form. To be more clear ...  do not mix biz with pleasure. Since a Lifestyle player will experience things which are not allowed in the Professional Area. You did not ask to get to know me as a person and or wonder what my interests were outside of the dungeon ... I did not read any invite to a meal such as lunch or dinner ... so you expected the COCK fulfillment factor and did not want or even try to swoon me. So please let's not deny such reality as it is a insult my intelligence on this matter. You want the fun but do not want to put any effort into a relationship as that is to much work ... and lets' face it who does? So as it might be perfectly acceptable for YOU to treat me like a whore to get your COCK fulfillment it is amusing that you became insulted when you assumed you were being treated like a John a Trick ... do you see a double standard here Keith?  I sure in hell do!!! I think this experience could be mindblowing for a pretty shy, sincere Kansas farmboy. Well it has been my experience most of you Kansas Folks are kinky as hell and born that way ... lol. I have spent my life not only teaching, but learning from everyone, and would enjoy learning from you. Hope you reconsider, but understand if you don't. Have a nice one. Keith

Well above I gave you a good way to start learning what this is about for real. If you take the time and put forth the cost for that book, you will get straight up information and I play according to that book. No actually, my intention wasn't to have my cock taken care of for free. Although I've lived in Phoenix and Denver the past few years, I guess the naive Kansas farmboy in me was exposed on this one. I've met quite a few women on Aff and other sites and had more sex than one can imagine, so I guess I was caught off guard by someone promoting a business. So I will bow out gracefully and let you carry on with your profession while I seek women for more of a one on one sexual experience in old fashioned terms.....free:) Good luck with the business. I guess the underlined section in red got me confused :::laughing like hell here ::: . Now if you weren't looking for just selfish satisfaction you are a rare breed of man ... however what I read was your a cheap bastard who thinks all should be available for the needs of that thing you swing between your legs. Now at this point you may consider me being a bitch ... and I am fine with that as I do market myself as such. But I find most men call a woman a bitch when they hear from them the truth they are happy in denial with. Such as your cock and free sex. I actually did want to learn, and although I may have not understood your meaning of personal, my intentions were sincere. Well I am taking time to respond here and I am going to go one step further ... this has inspired me to give a more detailed definition then I normally would and I am going to post this somewhere on my site so others can be educated also on this matter. Don't worry I will not leave personal information up about you that would be wrong. Yet let me repeat I suggest you read the book in the safety of your own space and see what this is about for yourself in more detail. The book is about a hour and half read,  if it takes you longer your looking at the pictures way to long. It will explain what this is about ... and for each person this is different. What you may find totally erotic another might be bored with. This is about self exploration and I am like your travel agent and tour guide. But I am curious, does this lifestyler involve sex, or is it things which I have only seen on TV. First of all BDSM is sexual but really not the traditional type of sex one may be use too. Rather if a Mistress needs to suck or fuck you then she has not learned the skills and the craft of being a good TOP (Mistress -Master). What you see on the screen be it TV or Film is the extreme stuff and even as a Professional I rarely am asked for those type of sessions. To enjoy BDSM there does not have to be pain at all and this point of pain is what keeps people from even trying it. I have always been under the assumption that the things done lead to a heightened sexual experience. This is true ... now since you are into sports medicine you should be able to follow what I am going to be saying here rather easy. When you take the Psychological, Biological and Sexual aspects and get them all working in conjunction you get what is known as a sub high or subspace /flying. This is a skill and a craft a good Mistress or Master has and knows how to work that correctly and more importantly safely. The wanna be Doms do not know or care to learn what this is about as they think it is paddling someone's ass makes them a Top. Normally those who seek Escort type of Dominance want to top from the bottom (which by the way is so rude ) they want to keep the power and pretend they are being Dominated. Now even Real Pro Domme's have a set of rules and protocols and some will say they never do something but funny subs who never met all will say otherwise. What goes on in others dungeon is their Business but if she does the fuck and suck routine she is cheating the sub out of wonderful experience. Oh sure the sub will lick her pussy or ass but a real sub will most likely never see that Domme again. That is not what a sub really wants and the wanna be's have no understanding of that and therefore pretend to do BDSM. And by not knowing what to do is where some people get hurt in the wrong way. Sadly you don't hear about all the sessions lifestyle and Professional that never have a problem only the ones were mistakes were made and then it is all over the media. Now in the Medical Field there is something known as the golden hour. If a person does a trauma such as a broken bone let's say ... for a hour they are really remarkably okay with it ... the body produces a type of morphine to help with that pain .. it is much like the runners high from endorphins. Now after that hour it is going to hurt like a son of a bitch and if serious the body will go into shock and start shutting down things like important organs. The body is not really capable of determining a big hurt to a little hurt and when a Top be it a Mistress or a Master knows how to manipulate that you are getting a natural high from your own body. Now here is another unknown fact ... there are ways to produce that same endorphin without the use of pain. Which is why a good Mistress and or Master knows this and uses it to their own benefit. And any pain over five minutes is over kill. Now for FemDoms keeping you erect without the use of the standard methods is a craft and maintaining that and then allowing a ejaculation does make it more intense when ejaculation happens. Now some Tops may not allow you that ... some call it a happy ending lol. The experience is sexual but not traditional and perhaps some of it is regarded as Taboo some just regard it as kinky. I call it just fun stuff. I see submissive's - slaves- bottoms- masochists- to just kinky souls and all of them are fun to play with. A real Top will know how to deal with each one effective and erotically. I do not want to lead you to think I have a clue:) Well I sort of figured this out already and as I said most people do not know what this is about and are to afraid to try. I can not say what a session is like till I speak to you. Each session is unique and according to YOUR limits and boundaries. And to explain it takes away the magic of it all. The basics are important to know which the book I suggested will help you there a great deal. I don't want you to think I am some loser now, I really do thank you for the email of clarification and maybe we can start over with you knowing I'm a semi butthead:) Keith Well think all men are buttheads which is why I love to train each of you ... Now I have no problem explaining things to people if I can however there come a point when I see my good efforts are not repaid back I get a bit pissed as anyone would. Please read the following and see what I mean.

I am often asked what this is about ... recently a guy in chat on the ColoradoXchange.com had a dream of trying some anal play but had fear about it ... I told him to call me as we whispered in chat for days thought a call might be better to explain then type it all out. Now he calls I explain my view and thoughts on the matter he is jazzed to try this ... I spent a lot of time with this person doing that okay? Now a week by this person comes into chat all excited to tell me that he saw another ASP (Adult Service Provider) ... NOT A DOMME BUT AN ESCORT and wanted to share his anal experience with me and I mean to the last detail.  So I asked him "What does that have to do with me and why should I care?" Lets see here .... I spent time my time with him telling him all this and instead of seeing me he went with someone else. And he thought this was okay? Now he tried to tell me he was preparing himself for me .... I called him on that bullshit right then and said no you wasted my time and now think I should be overjoyed with your first anal experience in which I was not around for ... what the fuck guy???? That is a wanker which many Mistress encounter ...   Oh there was one that wanted to play with a sub girl as a Dom himself ... so I find a sub girl ... then he says he wanted a sub girl who was not a professional  submissive ... so I find one  .... Then he said he wanted two sub girls ... so I find two sub girls ... and he wants and wants and you know how many times I seen him? NEVER because he was full of shit. Wankers are rude. Now when I finally get tired of his happy bullshit and call him on it he acts shocked I would be so verbal about it. I explain I came through with things he said he needed at cost to me and he did not even try to book a session and in the future I did not want to hear his shit anymore he reached the limit of my good nature.  Yet of course I am the bitch now because I did not play his wanker game. In this last year I have grown more then weary with the wankers and now keep my interviews short and sweet.  When you get people calling long distance to play this game it must be some sort of high for them to do it ... When in fact it is that same behavior which makes it hard for those who are sincere to get in to see a real Mistress.

So to spend a lot of time explaining things to people who go someplace else after the fact well  that type of behavior is insulting. Now I choose not to spend much time on such subject with people I will give them a pathway to find the knowledge they seek and if they are interested they can make time to see me. I have sought a personal for a couple of years now and yes I am picky in what I seek. I listed it up on my site so it is there for all to read and no I will not settle for less on this and I know I am being really cool considering what some Domina's expect. I also have found when it comes down to servitude men think about their cocks first and Mistress last. Well not in my dungeon realm. Let me give yet another example here ... I had some boxes in my kitchen which I have plans to make a medical lab. Too move these boxes out to a closet took maybe a hour or two. Not a huge job at all. I left this for a potentially personal to see if they could do some service toward their play time. Now I spoke to over 2 dozen people and I say fourth showed interest but never even followed through to see what the job actually was. And believe it or not some of these losers would email and or call asking if that work got done yet because they wanted to play they had an erection. Now I know a submissive man who is wonderful we are friends so we have not played in the dungeon ... bless his helpful heart I told him about this he came over and in one hour he had the job done better then I had hoped for and then refused my off to play as he said he wanted my friendship which also was another touching thing about him a man who is a real submissive. I am Lifestyle as well as Professional. this is a very expensive hobby so no one plays for free in the Dungeon. I am putting my part into it I assure each one of you. I could make a long list of what all it takes by saying the lube I use is 47 bucks a bottle and condoms which I use three for protection and safety adds up not to mention batteries for vibes (which need to be replaced often as they have a low life span and are not made like Toyotas). And the space of the Dungeon itself. Over half of my living area is dedicated to this hobby. Now true I did not cook so making the medical lab in there is a practical thing the fact remains are YOU making those types of efforts to the cause here? So serving a Mistress is a evolving effort. Perhaps she needs the place painted or some equipment made but there is always something to do in a dungeon and or for one. To show up and not to contribute to the mutual cause in some way is being a cheap ass bastard and frankly not worth any Mistresses time. It is like making a date with a lady getting her to the car expecting her to fuck your brains out and having her walk back inside her home  without any effort from you. Think about it guys does that happen for YOU so often you expect it all to revolve around your cock? Ain't going to happen ... not even in a perfect world. And to share one last true story with you which sums it up very factually.  I had a allergic reaction to something and had a lot of facial swelling going on ... a sub Dr John ... called and wanted a session early that day ... I told him what was going on and he said not a problem at all. When I open the door he stood there looking at me and said .... "WOW right after the session you need to go to the Hospital" I stood there cracking up as I finally saw the Myth about it being all for the Mistress was a crock of shit fairy tale. He is a good sub but I noted right after the session part loud and clear. After the session it is all about the Mistress for way to many of you naughty souls. So there you have it all from my perspective ... I know many Mistresses have their own stories similar to my own. When I got into BDSM I jumped in and have loved it to much to even consider stopping. I play on a real level be it Lifestyle and or Professional in other words I play from the heart. True not all players will like my style and that is okay I know there are many who do enjoy it very much. Some may not like my looks or the fact I am a BBW but as I quote Mistress Venus in Florida ... "S&M does not mean Stand & Model"  Now as this is based in fantasy for the most part and there are a lot of aspects to it that you have to actually experience to understand. Before you get into this try to educate yourself about this subject. If you find a Mistress who takes the time to offer advice and wisdom do not waste her time by being a wanker. A good rule of thumb is use your manners here when dealing with a Mistress and be honest in all your dealing with her. And it is in your own best interest to show your heart felt appreciation when she does such things for you ... be worthy of her time and don't be a butthead about things. Now hasn't this been an educational page or what?